Three women have become friends after they found out they were all being cheated on by their ‘love-rat’ boyfriend at the same time.
Kirsty Harding, 36, and Chloe Allen, 24, secretly plotted to dump Paul Sandow, 35, after they found out he had been cheating on them both.
But when Kirsty told Sandow she was leaving him, he bombarded her with messages and allegedly threatened her with a knife.
It was only when Sandow was in court after being charged with harassment that his third girlfriend, Kylie Hubbard, 35, realised he had been unfaithful to her as well after finding his name on a bail sheet.
The three women have since become friends after their ordeal.
Kirsty told The Sun. ‘The one good thing to come out of this is our friendship.’
The nursery manager from Sunderland matched with Sandow on dating website Plenty of Fish and thought she had met her soulmate.
She said they were ‘exclusive right away’ but after dating for two years, Kirsty got a call which broke the news.
Chloe, 24, asked for her name and whether she was dating the ex-soldier. Kirsty then confirmed her identity and said that she was going out with Sandow.
‘She said, ‘So am I’. I was traumatised,’ Kirsty told the outlet.
Three women have become friends after they found out that they were all cheated on by the same man. Pictured from left to right: Kirsty Harding, Chloe Allan, Kylie Hubbard
Kirsty Harding and Chloe Allan secretly plotted to dump Paul Sandow, 35, (pictured) once they found out the truth about him
Chloe, from Washington, Tyne and Wear, said she got suspicious that Sandow was seeing someone else when she linked Kirsty to a person saved in his phone contacts list as ‘Kevin’.
The waste management worker said her ‘heart dropped’ when she rang the number and it turned out to be Kirsty.
‘I realised he was a very deceiving man,’ she told the outlet.
The duo then met up, started texting and planned when they were going to ditch Sandow.
They even devised a signal to let each other know when they could interact without alerting him.
Kirsty and Chloe would message a prosecco glass emoji to indicate that the ‘coast was clear’ and they could talk freely.
She changed the locks and went and stayed at her mother’s house after she confronted Sandow and told him that ‘it was over’.
But when she refused to get back together with him, he messaged Kirsty multiple times and allegedly threatened her with a knife.
Sandow was then arrested and charged with harassment.
This third girlfriend Kylie, 35, of Sunderland, then found out that she had been cheated on as it was on his bail sheet (both pictured together)
Kirsty matched with Sandow on dating website Plenty of Fish and thought she had met her soulmate (both pictured together)
This third girlfriend Kylie, from Sunderland, then found out that she had been cheated on as it was on his bail sheet.
The mother-of-one said that it was ‘great’ to get in touch with the other two women as ‘no one else could understand’ what they had ‘been through’.
Sandow admitted harassment and was given a suspended prison sentence at Newcastle Crown Court, after four years of delays.
Whilst Kirsty thought the action taken was too lenient, she told the outlet: ‘It’s incredible to have developed friendships through a love rat.’
Sandow – who now works at as a scallop diver in Orkney and has a new lover – accused the women of ganging up on him.
He ‘categorially’ denied their claims and said that the court case was ‘fictional’.