Joss Stone has revealed she was in an abusive relationship as she opened up about the ‘extremely dangerous’ time in her life in a new Instagram video on Monday.
The singer, 38, explained how a former partner once threw her out of his home in the middle of the night in the pouring rain while she was only wearing a T-shirt.
Joss, who didn’t reveal when the domestic relationship was, admitted she attempted to ‘leave him many many times’ but the situation became more dangerous.
The You Had Me singer is now married to former US Marine Cody DaLuz and they share four children, Violet, three, Shackleton, two, nine-month-old son Bear, who they welcomed via adoption, and Nalima, three-months.
Now opening up for the first time, Joss discussed how she escaped a former domestic relationship and how ‘only cowards abuse women’ as she gave advice to those in the same situation.
She said: ‘If there is a risk of danger don’t tell him in person that your leaving, and that leads me to a story of my own.
Joss Stone has revealed she was in an abusive relationship as she opened up about the ‘extremely dangerous’ time in her life in a new Instagram video on Monday
The singer, 38, explained how her former partner once threw her out of his home in the middle of the night in the pouring rain while she was only wearing a T-shirt
‘I was in a relationship like this one, I had tried to leave him, I can’t even tell you how many times and each time it felt like it was getting more and more dangerous.
‘One day he threw me out, surprising how strong he was, in the rain and I was just wearing a T-shirt because it was night time, it was actually his T-shirt.
‘I had no underwear on and he threw me out in the rain and he thought he had trapped me in the drive way because I didn’t know the code to get out the gate and he thought it was locked, he thought he had just trapped me in the rain.’
She continued: ‘But I had clocked the code the last time he put it in, I had clocked it and I ran to that gate and I typed it in and the gate started opening and I was like ‘oh my god I’m going, oh my god I’m going to go’.
‘So I ran and my feet were killing me, they were getting ripped up by the bloody concrete.
‘I’m running and thinking I’m going to get to the end of the road and I have nothing, nothing, no phone, how am I going to call anybody and what do I do and as I started to think that I slowed down and I turned around and the f***er was running after me.’
Joss said the man ‘dragged her back’ to the house but she was eventually able to leave him when she went off to work touring and instead of ‘being noble and kind’ and ending the relationship face to face, she ‘just never went back’.
She said: ‘It was so annoying and he did catch me and told me that the police were going to come and arrest me, which wasn’t true but he dragged me back and that was that.
Joss, who didn’t reveal when the domestic relationship was, admitted she attempted to ‘leave him many many times’ but the situation became more dangerous
Now opening up for the first time, Joss said: ‘I was in a relationship, I had tried to leave him, I can’t even tell you how many times and each time it felt like it was getting more dangerous’
‘But I was able to leave him because I am a touring musician and I used to go on the road to do my job so that was actually easy and then I just never went back.
‘I didn’t need to be noble and kind by breaking up with him face to face, I tried that many many times and it was extremely dangerous.
‘As I have lived a part of this, a bag and a plan is a good idea’.
Originally prompting the conversation, one fan wrote to her and said, ‘I’m ready to leave him, help!’, Joss shared her advice in a second video and urged women to have a ‘to go bag’ well hidden.
She said: ‘There is so much more that needs to be said here, if you find yourself needing to leave a person who isn’t a safe person you need to be careful how you do it.
‘One lady said make a to go bag, where it is safe and he won’t find it. It is very likely that if your in this position you won’t have anyone because he stripped you off your friends and family.
‘A new phone and a charger, you don’t want him tracking you and if you can’t get a new one turn off all the locations.
‘Plan your route to leave and screenshot and document the abuse.
‘If you have children, teach your children a safe word so you then know when its time to go.
Joss was eventually able to leave him when she went off to work touring and instead of ‘being noble and kind’ and ending the relationship face to face, she ‘just never went back’; pictured 2023
Originally prompting the conversation, one fan wrote to her, ‘I’m ready to leave him, help!’, Joss shared her advice in a second video and urged women to have a ‘to go bag’ well hidden
In the caption, Joss revealed she decided to tell her story so other women know they are ‘not alone’ and shared a number of helpline in the hope to help other women
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‘You will need your ID, passport, birth certificate, cash, cards and medication.
‘If you are running away with your children make sure you have something for them and if your mumma then you are strong and you can do this’.
In the caption, Joss revealed she decided to tell her story so other women know they are ‘not alone’.
She penned: ‘I’m telling this story to highlight the fact that we are not alone, sadly it is super common ,1 in 3 women are abused by their partners at some point.
‘So don’t let it brake you. Don’t let it become your identity, don’t let it crush your beautiful spirit. Only a coward abuses a woman. He is weak you are strong. That’s why he is trying to make you feel small.
‘Men that abuse women are little b******. Full stop. However they can be quite dangerous little b******. So be careful when leaving.
‘The end goal is to remove yourself in a smart and safe way. Not to make a point, not to get them to understand you or love you better, they won’t.
‘They don’t know how to. It’s time to go. So pack that bag. Make your plan and execute it with grace and class and precision.’
She concluded: ‘Good luck xoxox Lots of love to you and yours x. See my last post for women’s help numbers . You don’t have to do it alone x’
In 2011, Joss was previously involved in a terrifying kidnap and murder ordeal at her home in Devon which changed her life and sparked her to relocate to Nashville.
The horrifying ordeal saw two men found guilty in 2013 of plotting to decapitate the singer with a samurai sword at her home in Devon.
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She was the target of a shockingly violent scheme by Kevin Liverpool and Junior Bradshaw, who labelled her a ‘she-devil’ and wanted to kill her because of her links to the Royal Family.
Bradshaw and Liverpool, described in court as ‘cannabis-smoking layabouts’, were stopped as they drove to the pop star’s home in Devon with a car full of weapons.
Kevin was sentenced to life in jail with a minimum of ten years and eight months to serve, while his accomplice Junior sentenced to 18 years behind bars, but both men had their sentences cut.
‘What happened to me in 2011 has made me lock my doors and have an alarm system, whereas I didn’t before,’ Joss told The Times.
A year after their sentencing, both men got their sentences cut after winning an appeal against the length of their sentences.
Junior had his 18-year sentence cut to ten years by three Court of Appeal judges in London, while Kevin, who was originally given life with a minimum term of ten years and eight months, had his minimum reduced to six-and-a-half years.
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