An exasperated woman has revealed how she has ‘resented’ her dead sister her entire life after she was killed in a car accident.
Sarah, believed to be based in the US, took to Reddit’s popular Am I The A**hole (AITA) thread to reveal the details of the difficult family dynamics.
She explained that the ‘final straw’ came during her own wedding when her mother made the occasion about her sibling who passed away more than two decades earlier.
And other social media users have been quick to weigh in with their support.
Sarah, thought to be based in the US, took to Reddit’s Am I The A**hole thread to admit that she has ‘resented’ her dead sister all her life – but most painfully at her wedding (stock image)
In the post, titled AITA for resenting my dead sister all my life?, the woman explained how she and her now husband got engaged last June
In the post, titled AITA for resenting my dead sister all my life?, the woman explained how she and her now husband got engaged last June.
‘My mother has never supported me and was indifferent to the proposal which I had no problem with,’ she wrote.
‘At my wedding, my husband’s parents made a beautiful speech that brought me and my husband to tears.
‘When my father and mother got onto the platform my heart sunk as I had the understanding this speech would have nothing to do with me or my relationship.’
She continued: ‘My mother and my older sister had been in a car accident when I was 12 and my sister had not made it.
‘It was heartbreaking. My mother, my father and I had grieved ever since that day and I will never forget my beautiful sister Adelaide and her beautiful smile.
‘My mother had it the worst of us and separated herself from me and my father ever since and our relationship has been in shambles.’
Elaborating further about their dynamic, Sarah wrote: ‘She constantly makes every day, even MY birthday, about Adelaide which always annoyed me slightly but I always rubbed it off as I wanted to be a good daughter. But my wedding day was the last straw.’
Sarah revealed that things had come to a head in recent days when her mother arrived at the couple’s apartment ‘demanding answers’ (stock image)
‘When she got to the top of the platform she proceeded to take the mic from my dad and make a speech about how her one wish in life was to see Adelaide get married and live a beautiful life.
‘She went on about her grieving process and healing journey at a yoga retreat not once mentioning my name or my fiancé’s.
‘She spoke for about five minutes and then in tears ended the speech with “now my Sarah gets to live the life Adelaide deserved but was taken away from to soon.”‘
Sarah explained that the situation had left her ‘absolutely furious.’
‘I did not want to ruin the day or let her get the best of me so I didn’t make a scene but I did not clap either and nor did my fiancé.
‘After the wedding I did not approach her or even speak to her for weeks – I figured she understood why.’
But she revealed that things had come to a head in recent days when her mother arrived at the couple’s apartment ‘demanding answers.’
She wrote: ‘I laughed in her face and told her she should know that speech was not acceptable at my wedding and I wish for her to apologize she refused so I just shut the door.
‘My phone is blowing up with calls from both sides of my family. My fiancé’s family completely supports me but most of my family is in their words disgusted by my actions.’
Other social media users flooded to the comments in their droves to support her as one wrote: ‘I’m so sorry for everything you’ve experienced’
Other social media users flooded to the comments in their droves to support her as one wrote: ‘I’m so sorry for everything you’ve experienced.
‘You’ve been living in the shadow of not just your lost sister but your parents’ obvious favorite child.
‘It’s a competition you never agreed to or wanted. It’s your time to shine, and if your parents aren’t willing to give you the spotlight, then they need to leave the damn show.’
Another added: ‘That is a horrible thing to have happened. I understand your mother is grieving, but there is no excuse for her actions that have harmed her remaining child.
‘Grief is not an excuse to implode the lives of everyone around you and then suck them into your own misery.’
And a third said: ‘It’s not much to ask that your wedding day be the one day where they focus on you.
‘I’m sorry for your loss and sorry that your parents have made you feel like you’re living in your sister’s shadow. You deserve every happiness and I’m glad you have the support of your husband and his family.’