A woman is asking people if she’s the a****** for not treating her stepchildren equally to her 14-year-old son.
The married mother created a Reddit post for the r/AITAH community yesterday describing how upset her husband was to find out she would be buying her son, and not her stepchildren, a Tesla Model 3.
‘My son turns 15 soon, and he’s been asking for a model 3. I plan on getting it for him because I think he deserves it,’ she stated.
Her stepchildren were just as upset as their father, who the woman says, ‘haven’t and won’t be getting cars.’
Regarding the post, the woman wanted to know from other Reddit users, ‘AITAH for not wanting to buy my stepkids cars and fund the family?’
The Tesla Model is the car the woman’s 14-year-old son is requesting for a present. It was unveiled in 2016, and the 2023 Model 3 refresh design was announced last September
The Model 3 was the world’s top selling plug-in electric car from 2018 to 2020, before being knocked from the top spot by the Tesla Model Y
The woman and her husband currently have a prenup in place that holds them each responsible for their own children, meaning that the two of them would have separate finances.
The two of them also pay their own bills and split the mortgage.
‘Groceries and the mortgage we split 40/60. Him 60% me 40% based on the fact that he has two children and I have one,’ she stated.
Despite the split, the woman said that her husband now wants her to pay 80% due to no longer being able to ‘live the same lifestyle’ as he did during the early years of their marriage.
The women described the prenup she and her husband had drawn up when getting married, saying she likes the idea of, ‘separate finances’
Reddit users have spoken, and many of them have declared that the woman is NTA.
One person wrote: ‘You’re just following the OG agreement.’
‘He is the one coming up with changes that will benefit him.. Jut be prepared for relationship changes if he continues this way..,’ she added.
Another person wrote: ‘I don’t see why you should have to finance his lifestyle now. But I don’t see how you two are going to maintain your marriage at this point unless your husband comes around and is back to being fine with the OG agreement.’
‘So he was fine with your son treat differently to his children when you got together but now he wants them to be equal,’ stated another Reddit user.
‘NTA. Hope your son enjoys the car,’ they added.
Many Reddit users believe the woman is NTA for the decision to purchase her teenaged son a car and not do the same for her stepchildren
Some Reddit users commented on the post mainly to trash her marriage rather than tell her if she is or isn’t an a******.
One person commented: ‘… You knew your husband lost a job that resulted in a 50% pay cut and you didn’t even bat an eyelash. What kind of partnership is that?’
‘Why did you even get married? The two of you didn’t build a family, you just did what was convenient for you,’ stated a Reddit user.
They added, ‘Also, a brand new EV for a teen driver is beyond stupid. Odds are it’s wrecked within the year.’
‘While what you have written seems reasonable. don’t be shocked that your second marriage ends in divorce,’ wrote a Reddit user.
‘I feel really bad for your step kids, and the lack of awareness you have in how you are treating them versus your son.’
Reddit users that have agreed or disagreed with her decision have also spoke ill about her marriage, many believing the man and woman will eventually divorce
Due to the family’s lopsided financial structure, many readers believe the man and woman will eventually divorce.
The woman has not responded to any of the comments since creating the Reddit post.