Bethenny Frankel revealed she felt ‘relieved’ to have suffered a miscarriage during her ‘suffocating’ marriage to ex-husband Jason Hoppy.
While reflecting on the loss, which she suffered eight weeks into her pregnancy in 2012, the Real Housewives of New York City alum, 53, said she was ‘so incredibly relieved’ not to have expanded her family as her second marriage held on by a thread.
‘In a constructive way, I said, ‘I’m kind of relieved … because I don’t think this is a healthy or positive relationship,’ the reality star recalled telling her former spouse, who she split from in 2012, on Tuesday’s episode of her Just B Divorced podcast.
Despite her relief, the mom-of-one made it clear that she did initially tell Hoppy, 53, that ‘it was a nightmare that’ the miscarriage had happened.
Bethenny Frankel revealed she felt ‘relieved’ to have suffered a miscarriage during her ‘suffocating’ marriage to ex-husband Jason Hoppy
Still, she claims he called her a ‘real piece of s**t’ for her reaction and temporarily moved out of their home to a hotel, which also felt like a ‘relief’ to her.
This prompted her to call divorce lawyers and begin to look for a way out of their marriage, just two years after welcoming their daughter Bryn Hoppy, who will turn 14 next month.
At the time, the TV personality, who is engaged to fiancé Paul Bernon, detailed her pregnancy loss and feeling a ‘range of emotions’ in a June 2012 Glamour essay.
‘There was, I have to admit, a bit of relief that I wouldn’t be starting my new TV job seven months pregnant,’ Frankel wrote. ‘And then there was immense guilt at the relief.’
During her podcast, also spoke about not wanting to ‘be intimate’ with Hoppy prior to their miscarriage.
Frankel alleged that Hoppy would compare their marital bed to ‘a block of ice’ since she ‘didn’t want to have sex at all.’
The New York native explained that part of the reason she did not want to have sex with him was she no longer had ‘respect’ for Hoppy.
‘I used to force myself, gag myself through doing it. … It is torture,’ she told listeners.
The former couple finalized their divorce in 2021, nine years after announcing their separation.
While reflecting on the loss, which she suffered eight weeks into her pregnancy in 2012, the Real Housewives of New York City alum, 53, said she was ‘so incredibly relieved’ not to have a second child with her former spouse, who she split from in December 2012 (pictured in May, 2009)
Frankel, who tied the knot with Hoppy in front of reality TV cameras in March 2010, welcomed their daughter two months into their marriage.
The Skinnygirl founder, who now has full legal custody of Bryn, called herself ‘stupid’ for conceiving so early into her relationship with Hoppy.
‘I will never regret my daughter for one minute,’ she said on her podcast. ‘But, I felt like I was bullied and waterboarded and flogged and on a road I could not get off of.’
She went on to reflect on her and Hoppy’s past marital woes, which she says said were the result of him feeling ’emasculated by [their] disparity in income.’
‘In a constructive way, I said, ‘I’m kind of relieved … because I don’t think this is a healthy or positive relationship,’ the reality star recalled on Tuesday’s episode of her Just B Divorced podcast; pictured in 2010
Despite her relief, the mother-of-one made it clear that she did initially tell Hoppy, 53, that ‘it was a nightmare that’ the miscarriage had happened (seen in 2010)
Last week, she revealed that she still suffers from PTSD following her divorce and labeled the experience as ‘traumatizing.’
‘I’ve been burned. I have massive trust issues, and I have post-traumatic stress disorder,’ she expressed. ‘It was literally the most traumatizing thing I will hopefully ever go through in my life.’
The star added that the lengthy divorce had been ‘more tortuous’ than grief, while also labeling it as ‘mental and emotional torture.’
The former couple share a teenage daughter, named Bryn Hoppy, who will turn 14 next month
After a nearly decade-long custody battle over Bryn, Frankel was awarded primary residential custody of her daughter
‘I thought I would never survive it. I did not see a way out. It was suffocating. I thought I was gonna be miserable for the rest of my life.’
Frankel also stated, ‘I have had every single f***ing thing except for physical abuse done to me, and I am an expert on this topic.’
Some of the incidents that she allegedly experienced included ‘fraud,’ ‘multiple trials on custody,’ and also ‘being followed.’
‘I have been through a f***ing war – a war. I have questioned myself as a human, as a parent, because I was told so many times otherwise how terrible I was and disgusting and old and irrelevant and so abused, because I had no power to get out of it.’