A bartender at a secret sex club in New York City has spoken out about what goes down behind closed doors — from how she’s professionally obligated to dress like a ‘h*e’ to how porters clean up after messy couples.
The unnamed woman, who’s been doing the job for nearly three years, went on podcast Other People’s Lives, hosted by Greg Dybec and Joe Santagato, to reveal what it’s like to work at a sex club, which ‘are kind of everywhere’ in the city.
The venue she works at is housed in a three-story space near Madison Square Park, hidden behind an unmarked door in a high rise that sits among ‘office buildings and stuff.’
‘When it’s time to start the party, they put out this placard by the buzzer, where you would buzz in… so people can easily identify,’ she explained.
A woman opened up on podcast Other People’s Lives, hosted by Greg Dybec (L) and Joe Santagato (R), about what it’s like bartending at an underground sex club in New York City
She also emphasized that sex clubs were ‘kind of everywhere’ in the city (stock image)
‘Because it is a door that you would never think twice about.’
The club — like most sex clubs, apparently — is BYOB. So, as a bartender, instead of making drinks, she holds on to the alcohol that customers bring themselves and pours it into cups for them as requested.
‘Also, I serve as eye candy,’ she stated.
‘I have to dress up as, you know, sexy. I have to wear a little h*e outfit. I have to be topless for part of the night. So that is kind of part of the allure, is that you have this hot bartender with big t**ties.’
As for the clientele, the woman described them as ‘definitely [from] all walks of life,’ adding in particular that she sees ‘a lot of couples.’
‘I would say it’s probably 50 per cent couples who are just starting out. They don’t know, they’ve never done this before. There’s maybe 10 per cent of people who are like, “I’m just curious, I just came to look, I don’t want to do anything.”‘
With that, she estimated that ‘there’s another 10 per cent of guys who just come to jerk off, or whatever.’
The specific sex club she works at, she elaborated, is the rare one to permit ‘single men’ past the door sans any reference — and she admitted that the rule has consequently gotten the establishment a ‘bad rap in the community.’
The woman admitted that single men show up in droves and don’t see any action ‘all the time.’ Pictured is Other People’s Lives cohost Greg Dybec
While bartending, she also explained that men will often ‘stand right next to me and jerk off.’ Pictured is the podcast cohost’s Joe Santagato reacting during the woman’s interview
Given that single men are allowed – and, the woman implied, do frequently show up in droves – cohost Greg Dybec asked the woman: ‘Do a lot of guys show up, and they’re still striking out, even at a sex club?’
‘Oh, all the time,’ she admitted. ‘I haven’t experienced that at other places. But, working [here]… sometimes, it’s only dudes in the building the entire night.’
The woman also claimed that the club also saw ‘many, many cops’ show up as customers – in spite of the operation technically not being legal.
‘It’s funny, because, they’ll let people in knowing that they’re cops,’ the woman explained. ‘The owner’s like, “They provide so much business because they tell their other cop friends they can come here and have a good time.”‘
Working behind the the bar, the woman will often look up to see a couple having sex right on the counter, staring back at her.
But much creepier is when seemingly single male patrons stand feet away from her, looking at her while they pleasure themselves.
‘A lot of guys will… stand right next to me and jerk off,’ the woman said.
‘So then it’s like, “Okay, if you’re going to stand there and jerk off, you better put some money in my tip jar at the very least.”‘
She also claimed that the club saw ‘many, many cops’ as clientele – despite the establishment technically being illegal
For those wondering who cleans up after the messy events, the woman explained: ‘We have a porter. And he basically just runs around after people f***ing, and immediately removes the sheets from the bed, puts a new sheet on, cleans up condoms, mops the floor.’
Staff, she also mentioned, are ‘allowed to participate’ in the sex-tivity – so long as they can fit the fun in to their 15-minute breaks.
While she’s the only female employee on site most nights – and therefore has largely avoided hooking up with customers to prevent jealousy among them – she’s observed that ‘security guys get [pleasured] like every shift, basically.’
‘We have these kind of like beefed up, cute security guards. So all the women who come in are like, “Ooh, the security!”‘
The bartender – who got the gig through one of the club’s owners after appearing in porn produced by his ’boutique porn company’ – also described that the vibes of some night can be just like an ‘eighth-grade dance.’
‘If there’s a lot of people who aren’t experienced or don’t feel comfortable, it’s their first time – which is often – it’s kind of like an eighth-grade dance,’ she said.
‘Everyone’s sitting around and kind of doing stuff. But not really going for it, you know? They’re just like sitting around.’
But, she continued, on the occasions when one of the club’s owners drops by with his girlfriend, and, ‘if it’s like that, and there’s a ton of people in the club but they’re all kind of standing up against the wall doing nothing, him and his girlfriend will sometimes just go to the middle of the room, and do stuff, just to get it started.
‘Because it’s like, one of those things, like someone’s got to start dancing. And then everyone starts dancing,’ she added.